Some people spend too much time trying to control how other people perceive them. I’m not talking about hair styles, clothes or other image / look type of things, I’m talking about trying to control what other people think about their character, their decision making process, the quality of their relationships, things that are more easily observed than implanted into ones consciousness.
It’s really senseless to me. If you want people to think that you are a person of high moral character BE a person of high moral character; stop stealing, lying, cheating and being a jerk moron and start thinking about the impact you have on other people, try to see yourself as only the center of YOUR OWN universe and allow other people the right to be the center of their own universe. If you want people to think that you are a good partner BE a good partner; be nice to them, listen to what they are saying, think nice thoughts about them when you have a free moment, come up with reasons why you are glad they are in your life. If you want people to think you are someone who has self respect DO the things a person who has self respect does; stop compulsive behaviors, improve your diet and exercise habits, eliminate unnecessary stress and drama from your life, ditch the things that are not working for you and start doing more of the ones that do.
I just don’t get it. Do what it is you want people to believe you do, be what it is you want people to believe you are. Cut through all of the fog and just go straight for it.