Cheryl Conner, contributor for Forbes magazine, wrote “Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid” and while I enjoyed the article, I needed to do a lot of draining mental gymnastics to keep it in order because of the title she chose. Since I like the article, I’m going to rewrite the sub heading using the positive vs. the negative.
For the record, I’ve changed the way I write recently to make sure I say as many things in the affirmative phrasing as possible e.g. “13 things mentally strong people do” instead of “13 things mentally strong people avoid doing”. The reason I made this change is because we have no choice but to consider affirmative first when dealing with sentences that contain an eventual negative.
So, on to Cheryl’s list of 13 things mentally strong people do:
1) They spend time feeling good about themselves and seeing the power they have in every situation.
2) They maintain their sense of self and see themselves as the cause of their successes and the lessons they learn.
3) They embrace change, adapting to it quickly and with enthusiasm.
4) They realize that they cannot control everything and focus their effort on changing the course of the things that they can and want to alter.
5) They live with absolute authenticity based on a code of ethics / morals that is compatible with those who seek to do no harm and leave the world no worse but possibly better than how they find it.
6) They do their due-diligence and take strategic risks to move themselves towards the things that are important to them.
7) They understand that the past was exactly as it was and they work to create the life they want to live today.
8) They learn from everything they do and learn each lesson only once.
9) They interpret other peoples successes as validation that success is the outcome of the habit of hard work.
work needed to move them towards their goals and objectives.
11) They enjoy their alone time because they understand that time is as valuable as what you do with it.
12) They understand that life has no universal meaning, that a big part of it is suffering and that we need to earn everything that we have.
13) They understand that each small step is a small reward but that sustained and long term effort is needed to achieve the huge leaps forward.