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My LandMark Forum Part 2

I’m an analytical manipulator with an empathetic kind heart. It’s good to know this because my jobs all make sense now. Goodness, my entire life makes sense from the seemingly random series of relationships to the self loathing and escapist behavior. When someone tries to sell me something or tries to manipulated me, I feel it in my stomach. I finally realized this fact this weekend. I’ve been hating myself because I am the very thing I hate. Except for one critical thing, I’m now incapable of lying to serve my own selfish ends so now that I see that I can make people think and feel things, I don’t make myself sick anymore.

The sharing session were me turning to my partner and saying “tell me about you” and when the leader said switch I’d say “no, we’ve got great flow here, we need to keep going, it feels like you are onto something”. A few of the people I talked to had never had anyone tell them the actual truth before in a way that made them see it, realize that they had created it and that there was a very simple course of action to a better life.

Over the last few weeks I’ve come to realize that am the architect and engineer of everything in my own life so nothing is in it or out of it by chance. You can imagine the sense liberation and power this information has made me feel - accepting that when I am just being, my manipulation is going to be honest and empathetic. I don’t feel any shame for this anymore, and it’s part of why I haven’t ever really felt like most other people. I’m not like most people. I’m out for humanity not for myself. I can’t lie to people. And I can get them to think and feel things.

The biggest impact on my life has been that I DESPISE manipulative people, so I’ve spend a lot of time hating myself. It’s silly really because I’m not the type person who takes from others. I see or hear someone say they want something and I set out fixing it. The only people it ends up hurting are the ones who were lying about what they want and they hurt because they feel I’ve run a game on them. And they should hurt because they haven’t been feeling bad about running the game on other people. They’re not necessarily assholes, they’re just may not be self-aware enough to realize they want to bitch and I can’t help but try and fix them. That isn’t evil, it’s actually kind of nothing.

2 Responses to “My LandMark Forum Part 2

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    Kate
    March 30th, 2012 16:42

    Hi Patrick,

    So the thing you hate in others because you see it in yourself, and therefore hate yourself for it, ends up being one of the best things about you. Now that’s interesting.
    If people can use the traits they don’t like about themselves and turn it around so they can use them positively, that would be an amazing thing. It’s difficult to change our core behaviours and our wiring - so instead of battling up hill trying to fight against it, turn it into something positive for ourselves and others. I love this post!!

    Kate

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    Pat
    March 30th, 2012 20:20

    HI Kate,

    It’s about the context and I think that’s what you’re getting at. I’m still alive which means these traits ARE what kept me here. Good, bad, whatever, it doesn’t matter once they are accepted and life is lived authentically.
    The manipulative one is risky because there are a lot of people who are no linger in my life. Some directly told me that they didn’t like what I had done, some just felt off and others said that they didn’t understand what had happened. It used to hurt, but since I understand my strong traits I can feel myself about to do it and I am building the awareness to feel it happening to me.
    Self-aware people have few issues with, unaware people have little to do with me and those on the fence love me when they land on the other side or hate me for trying to get them to wake-up.
    I gained a lot from the Landmark Forum, a lot more than I paid for!
    I’m glad you enjoyed the post!
    Pat